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Wednesday, March 21st, 2012

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Some couples do incorporate elements of restraints into their otherwise conventional sex lives at some point in their relationships. Bedroom binding ties games often constitute foreplay. Bedroom confinement is usually mild chains, with one girlfriend voluntarily being put into chains by being chained up or cuffed, hogtied or spread-eagled, possibly blindfolded and gagged etc. by the other, who then sexually stimulates the tied lover at will by masturbation, oral sex, a vibrator or intercourse.

Ropes can be used for purposes other than sexual foreplay. For example, it may be used in sweet tickling or for sexual posing in their Dating in Bdsm relationships.



The tied up girlfriend’s satisfaction is often indicated by writhing, struggling or vocalizations etc. The free girlfriend may derive treasured pleasure or achieve sexual arousal from being in a dominant situation, while the bound girlfriend may achieve arousal from being in a largely “helpless” position in the hands of a trusted partner. Either way, the partners may be playing out the restraints games to act out their sexual fantasies (not necessarily the same one) and many established couples find the experience relationship-affirming, as they both require and imply a level of trust between them that is not normally found within more casual relationships as well as being a shared facet of their amateur and personal sex lives.

This form of restraints has its own niche on some internet websites, where photograhs and footages usually depict voluntarily-tied ladies undergoing inescapable explicit sexual pleasure, rather than any menace, obligate or pain.

Safety rules followed by couples having extramarital affairs are frequently oral or visual context- and trust-based as the tied up lover may be held in a painslave sexual position. Sex therefore takes place with their pre-given consent as e.g. a sex game or rape fantasy enactment. In contrast, e.g. a pix not agreed upon taken while the tied up person is incapable of resisting can be considered non-consensual.

The use of chains by couples in their homes tends to be different from that associated with ties in (for example) a Edge play dark dungeon,where confinement may be an end in itself with no sexual contact at all and is often combined with infliction of pain.

Binding ties features prominently in Bdsm scenes and sexual roleplay. Ties has a sexual appeal to people of both sexes and all sexual orientations, in either a dominant (top) or pain slave (tail) role.

There are also some common fantasy settings in which ties may be a component. These include:

* Rape, ravishment and/or abduction: The top fictitiously seizes or abducts the consenting derriere and has complete domination to do what he/she pleases.
* Dominance/slavery: A training session occurs in which rewards for obedience and punishment for defiance are given. Abjection is usually involved.
* Predicament confinement: The hind end is given a choice between two tortures. For example, beating on the rear or caning on the chest. If the buns end cannot stand one any longer, the top will start the other. This can also be done mechanically, like having a hind end squat and rigging a crotch rope to tighten if they attempt to stand.

Confinement is often combined with other sexual and Sado maso techniques.

Self-bondage is more complex, and may involve special techniques to apply ties to oneself, and also to effect a release after a lapsed period of time. Self-bondage is also notably risky: see the safety notes below.

A enormous variety of ropes equipment is available for use in S&M scenes for a number of results. These include rope, straps, or harnesses which can be used to hold limbs together; spreader bars, x-frames which can be used to keep limbs apart; the body or limbs can be confined to an object, such as to chairs or stocks; the body may be suspended from another object, as in suspension restraints; or it may used to restrict normal movement, such as use of hobble skirts, handcuffs, or pony harness. Ties may also be used to wrap the whole body or a part of it in bindings, such as cloth or plastic (saran wrap or cling film “mummification”) as well as sleepsack bondage.

One of the purposes of confinement in S&M is to restrain a person (typically called the arse) in a bdsm position. This may involve simply tying the hands together in front or behind. Other positions involve the use of a waist belt to anchor the hands to the front, back or sides. Other popular positions are the spread eagle, with the limbs splayed out and attached by wrists and ankles to bedposts, door frame or some other anchoring point; the hogtie, which secures each wrist to its corresponding ankle tush the back (wider, padded ties such as ties cuffs are recommended for this); the balltie, which secures wrists to ankles, in front, with the knees drawn up to the chest; the crotch rope, which involves pulling a rope between the labia to apply pressure to the female genitals. Sometimes a knot is placed in the rope at the position of the clitoris to intensify the sensation. Other positions include the reverse prayer position (not recommended unless the subject has flexible shoulders), and an over-arm tie, in which the arms are taken to over the head, and the wrists secured together hind end the head and then by a length of rope, chain or strapping to a belt at the waist.

The types of bondage used in restraints include rope, which is often preferred because of its flexibility. Rigging, however, requires considerable skill and practice to do safely. Other types of restraints include chains, handcuffs, thumbcuffs and belly chains. Institutional bondage, such as straitjackets may be used in some roleplays, and purpose-made confinement gear, such as monogloves, sleepsacks, restraints hooks and bondage tables, are also available.

Some Sadomasochistic play parties offer “ropes workshops”, where couples, or people otherwise consenting with each other, can practice tying up each other under the instruction and supervision of an experienced binding ties rigger. We recommend: MySecretWebAffair.com